| | Forced and early marriages still common for girls in Afghanistan United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF)
03/18/2010
By Cornelia Walther
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KABUL - Narwin is just 14 years old, but she is already engaged to a man that she has never set eyes on.
"My parents say they do not care if I'm happy or not," she said. "They want me marry and that's it."
Forced and early marriages entrap girls and deprive them of their basic rights. In forced marriages, one of the partners is not willing to participate and varying degrees of coercion are involved. In arranged marriages, the families play a leading role, but the individuals getting married can supposedly choose whether to marry or not. In many cases, the border between forced and arranged marriage is imperceptible.
A deprival of rights
The Convention on the Rights of the Child and the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women both condemn the deprival of girls' rights implicit in forced and early marriage. Afghanistan has signed these documents, and The Afghan Constitution states: "Any kind of discrimination and privilege among citizens of Afghanistan is forbidden. Citizens of Afghanistan, men and women, have equal rights and responsibilities in front of the law."
Despite these laws, only one out of five Afghan women possesses a national identification card, which makes it difficult for them to fully defend their rights.
"Our constitution states that a girl must be 16 years old and agree to marry. I know this, but even if I dared to oppose my parents, how should I take legal action if I do not have papers to prove my citizenship?" asked Narwin.
Ongoing conflict perpetuates the problem
Forced marriage is a cultural practice in Afghanistan. Marriages are used to settle debts or to strengthen family status through social alliances. Poor families consider a daughter as an economic burden who must be married quickly to reduce the financial strain. With the ongoing conflict in Afghanistan many parents aim to marry their daughters at young ages to secure their futures.
Hafiza, 17, is one of the lucky girls who managed to escape a forced and early marriage. She was just 10 years old when her family attempted to marry her to a cousin, in exchange for his sister marrying her brother.
"When I saw the person who was supposed to become my husband, I said to my parents, 'How can you think I will marry him? I am only a child right now. You can kill me, but I will never marry him!'" she said. "It was hard to argue with them, especially with my mother. Every time I broached the subject, she beat me."
Hafiza won and is now in the final class of Herat's High School. She plans to open a beauty salon after she completes her education.
Education is critical
Education is critical to achieving equality for girls. Yet, girls continue to have limited access to school due to restricted movement, cultural barriers, shortages of female teachers and poor facilities, especially in rural areas.
In July 2009, UNICEF established Girls' Resource Forums in 20 schools across the West of Afghanistan, where 2,000 girls and 100 female teachers come together to play, learn, and discuss issues important to their lives. The aim is to strengthen the girls' self confidence and inter-personal skills, by making them talk about themselves, listen to each other and help their peers to make decisions or cope with a situation.
Together with its partners, UNICEF is working to make the Convention on the Rights of the Child a reality for girls in Afghanistan, so that Narwin and her peers can decide their own futures.
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